How would you behave around your brother's girlfriend if she commented on your weight and skin?

My brother is serious about his girlfriend, a beautiful and accomplished young woman. He's going to marry her in time. She's very sweet and tries very hard but there's a problem. She comments on my weight and skin and tells me what to do.


She once told me about an acne product and advised me to use it. I didn't ask or make any comment about my complexion, I had just been stressed and broken out. She also told my that I ate too much junk food when I mentioned wanting to lose weight. At that time I barely ate anything at all. I'm older than her and don't appreciate being told what to do but I don't want to say anything.





She asks me a lot of questions and I do not feel like divulging the answers. She may ask 3 times if I don't answer. Her rationale is that she was just making small talk.





What should I do? Tell her nicely to not comment on my appearance? That I like privacy? What should I say? Thank you.

How would you behave around your brother's girlfriend if she commented on your weight and skin?
I would say sit down with her and have a heart to heart with her, let her know that although her "advice" although well intended is not always constructive or wanted, and that you are happy that she wants to become closer with you but there are just somethings that you feel should be kept private, and to your self.


If she is truely as kind as a person as you have made her out to be she may not know that what she is doing is offencive to you and will gladly try and correct her ways. HOWEVER, if she is really just a mean person it could all backfire on you and she could turn meaner. i really hope that she just doesnt know that hse is offending you and will try and keep her misguided advice to herself.


Good luck.
Reply:I would either kick her *** or tell her to mind her own business... Later on in life she will be the one who will be fat and have bad skin... That is justice.
Reply:Why don't you try having some perspective and realize she's trying to be helpful?


Maybe if you try her suggestions you won't break out when you're stressed and you'll be able to lose some weight.


Is that such a bad thing?


Perhaps she's being a bit aggressive about it, but after all, you're the one who brought up the weight issue, according to your story.


Perspective is everything.
Reply:Tell her honestly and nicely that you didn't ask for her input and if felt you needed any in those depts you would ask.
Reply:I would tell her to mind her own damn business and that if she comments on your acne or weight again that you'll rub a stick of butter on her face and force feed her a box of twinkies. But that's just me ;)
Reply:rip her leg of and beat her with the wet end....
Reply:tell her...





"i do not enjoy talking with you because i feel you are too abrasive. i would like to get to know you, but there are going to have to be some changes made!"
Reply:You really have to nip this ***** in the bud. When she does this again (and she is being malicious, my dear, not helpful or making small talk she is out to upset you, she is obviously jealous of you and insecure about herself) smile sweetly at her and tell her "I'm sorry, I prefer not to discuss personal matters at all." Then change the subject to the news or something neutral. If she tries to argue with you or get you to discuss any more personal things, say again, "Perhaps you misunderstood the first time. I do NOT wish to discuss any personal matters. Thank you for understanding." and that's it. Watch out for this one, honey, because she is a real sneaky devious piece of work and will be as bitchy as you let her be, so set your ground rules NOW.
Reply:There are those ppl who always think they have an answer to everything and they live in this perfect world because at the moment they don't have any weight on their shoulders. I often block these ppl out. I would remain friendly with as she may just thinks she helping in situations. You will know when it begins to be a bit much and I suggest you ask her a few questions to flip the mode. Ex. why did you ask me about that? or I'm going to take another approach with my weight loss. I guess the type person I am I my body language or expressions on my face cuts the drama when I meet a person. I guess I'm just too direct...I would love for someone to come at me like that. Anyway good luck! If she is not truly a bad person and your brother loves her then just block her out.
Reply:The next time this gal says something, you should speak up. Say something like:





"Sandra, I know you care about my well-being, but when you say that I am fat (or whatever) it really hurts my feelings. It's none of my business of what you think of me so please keep your comments or thoughts to yourself."
Reply:I would tell her nicely that you don't like to discuss your appearance. "Please. I really mean it. Yes, really. Please don't ask me again. I want us to be friends since you're marrying my brother but this is making it difficult. Thank you for your understanding." Be blunt. She doesn't seem to pick up subtle hints very well.